in general Calling Out Girls On Being Bad Feminists is not a job for men to do
What should I do if I see someone being a bad feminist though? Should I express my opinions to the nearest female and have her be a proxy for me? Does that rule only apply to cis-men or should we also say trans-men can’t call out when women are being bad feminists? How does this line of reasoning work?
Men who are progressive, pro-feminist, or allies to women — we have to constantly check ourselves. We have to be open and listen to women and sometimes respond by taking a backseat and not encroaching on female space in ways that are kind of natural to us. It’s so integrated into who we are as men: to take centre stage, to lead, to be out front, to not really understand the power dynamic that’s at play. I think it’s really important for all of us men who are progressive and who are working to eradicate sexism and all the other social ills out there to be a lot more cognisant of our presence in these circles and spaces.
It’s funny, because I was expecting a fighting Sycorax on the top of a spaceship with a sword and a satsuma moment. Or an asking Prisoner Zero if he thinks earth is not protected while tying a bow tie moment. You know, one of those really big defining character moments. Capaldi’s big character moment was pouring a glass of scotch and making you wonder if he killed someone. I have a good feeling about this.